New Beginnings

I have placed my face on a singles website: Tangowire.com. And I have a couple of pictures of my mug there and along with a little bit of information about me. I have had a few people email me and say, “Hey! What’s shakin’?!” And I have emailed several people and got ZERO response. It’s pretty rude if you ask me at least have the decency to say that you aren’t interested.

The most recent was a young lady from Missouri. I will not divulge the city or the name to keep her out of this venue. This young lady is 25. I will be 43 in November. She contacted me and I asked her why she did. Her response: She said that I looked like I was very huggable and a lot of fun. Hmm. . . how does one take that? So she starts emailing me, never mind that I was a senior in high school the year she was born, and says that she really wants to get to know me. Okayyyyyyyyyy. So I start telling her stuff about me. The things I like to do, that I don’t take my work too seriously, that I like to be outside, where I grew up, all that stuff. And then she asks me if I have AIM or something to chat with. . . and I? Well, of course, I say yes. So she is talking about her work (in politics) and I am really a-political, I am just NOT into it. And she is talking about how she wants to be in DC within a year and I am thinking “Wow, I hope I never took myself that seriously”. So thankfully, I think she realized that there was quite a difference, both in age and in personality. Yea, I am fun and huggable, but I like to live and living, in my humble opinion, is not about a job or career.

There have been a couple of others. One of which I think I may have scared off by telling her that she could come meet me on Sunday morning for coffee, the paper and conversation (which is ALL I wanted). Then there was this woman who contacted me and gave me her and her partner’s email addresses and said that she was with the most wonderful woman in the world and wanted us all to get together and then shortly thereafter, contacted me and said, “We are having some trouble and I don’t know where our relationship is going. Best of luck to you”. Then, POOF, gone.

There have also been a couple of successful pairings, if only for friendship. I spent a couple hours talking to a woman last night. We told stories on ourselves and laughed and I think we both had a really good time. I am a bit worried because she is already calling me babe and darlin’. But I think she is harmless (and 2000 miles away).

I have actually spent a LOT of time emailing someone that is geographically closer (within 3 hours) and have had a wonderful time getting to know her. She is smart and funny and I think we get each other. We have a similar background in regards to religion growing up and where we are now. And it actually appears that she gets along with her family about as well as I do mine (which is not so well). I am actually going to go and meet up with her this weekend. I am a little scared that we may not get along as well as I think may be possible, but who knows? We spent about an hour on the phone on Monday. There were lots of laughs and only a few moments of pregnant silence when it appeared neither of us had anything to say. I will see if that persists, or if it was just the “first real conversation” jitters.

It’s different face to face. You get the interaction and the eye contact. You get to see the little mannerisms that you don’t know are there. It has been a VERY long time since I have been on the dating scene (and the time that I spent on it before was very limited), so I don’t know that I really know how to do it. Time will tell. My next post may be one of utter despair that my meeting didn’t work out very well or who knows, maybe I’ll go rent a U-haul for the second date.